What I learned from Spending my 20s in a Strip Club
I learned that embracing the in-between brings such frustrations. I learned that because I refused to be a follower, I had no idea how to lead. Following someone else’s style is the easy way out and it’s often done without any care whatsoever—which leads people to follow the trend a little longer than they should.
I learned that the word “posse” is used for men, but it can also mean a group of women. I learned that you can have too much of a good thing. Be careful not to let your posse get too big. A posse’s worth is in the eyes of the beholder.
I learned that trying to please everyone often leads to pleasing no one. I learned that when you’re in the service industry, it’s best not to say what you really think because it may hurt the tip.
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I’ve also learned that a woman knows if she is sexy—and embracing her own beauty is what’s most important. True confidence isn’t being able to look at yourself in the mirror and know you look good. True confidence is knowing that you are an amazing person and no matter what, your greatness will shine through.
And finally, I’ve had to learn that there is no such thing as a perfect body. When my body changed after having a baby, I was terrified because I couldn’t recognize myself anymore. But then I had to come to the realization that my strength, confidence and sexiness were never about having a certain look—it was about feeling good in my own skin and radiating that energy out into the world. And that’s something we all have to embrace, whether it be through makeup or clothing or our hair.
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I learned that making myself heard is more important than getting what I want. I learned to speak out and have conversations instead of letting situations simmer inside. I learned to do it all myself, but also to rely on other people when I needed help. The most valuable lesson I learned, however, was how to live by my own set of principles while being able to work with others who have different philosophies.
I’ve been in and out of industries over the past decade. I’ve worked with people of all different personalities who were in a range of positions related to my work, from a total doormat to a high-powered executive, from an assistant to the president. What I’d really like to focus on here is the worst part about being surrounded by jerks: dealing with them.
“I’ve been in and out of industries over the past decade. I’ve worked with people of all different personalities who were in a range of positions related to my work, from a total doormat to a high-powered executive, from an assistant to the president.”
In the past few years, I’ve been asked (or told) by numerous people how I deal with jerks… well, let me be honest here: more often than not, it’s me who does the jerking around. I’ve been asked to be a better leader, and I have a lot of ideas on how to improve my leadership skills. I have things I want to say, but why would anyone pay attention when the person who’s supposed to be listening is speaking only in one-word answers?